Monday, July 9, 2012

Tough Times


Fighting, to me is a hard learning process. The tears over arguments and the thoughts that maybe I can't do this all has given me a drive to keep going.  It sometimes takes words from someone that loves you to shake you up and make you see what you should actually be doing, and sometimes you end up with bruised toes.  After all, a relationship is a promise between two people, God doesn't take it lightly and neither should we.



What do you do when you realize when the fairy tale story turns into reality and you realize that the prince can be a frog and the princess the wicked step-sister character of the story?  All those qualities that you once loved now seem selfish and it seems like they no longer care about.  It is all about perspective especially if you've been together for a long time.    



The way I see it now, the problems and issues that are encountered are probably for the best because God is teaching and stretching us.  I know that sounds like a crazy statement, but think about it if we thank God for those issues and look at them with a little perspective we find that those issues are opportunities to grow and re-learn the person you're with.  But what if you've been married several years and you're friends with the person you're with can you start at the beginning and build a friendship.  I say a big YES to that.  It is never too late to make a new beginning all you have to do is try your hardest and be fully invested in relearning the person you are with.



If you can get over the first hurdle, just imagine how much stronger our relationship will be once you reach the next one!  Remember your promise you are partners and God gave you this person for a reason.  Each person has goals and aspirations that you each want to achieve so find the support and friendship in your relationship that will lead you to support each other the way God intended.

1 comment:

  1. Amen, Belinda, amen. Ernie and I are struggling now, too. Been married 14 years and going through a REALLY hard time right now and I keep going back and forth between can I get past this when I know that God put us together or should I chuck it ALL and leave and just move on with my life? How can I when I know that God will not bless me if I leave and I DO love this man with all of my heart. So here I am, waiting, wondering what tomorrow brings...I hear ya.

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